Clarity & Closet


What a Russian Bikini Waxer Taught Me About Advocating For Yourself


There's not much bathing suit season left, but I swim all year round at a local pool, so I have a plethora of swimsuits. Plethora - great word, right?
However, that means attention to...body hair.


It's a huge subject, but for the sake of your valuable time, I'll skip the discussion about the @%#@!! decades of pressure to defoliate.

Although some of my suits have boy trunk bottoms or skirts or frills etc., I do have a few suits where a bikini wax or a close encounter with a razor is goin…

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I'm a weather which - which "which" are you?


I'm a weather which.

This means I have finally worked out after half a century that I am affected by the weather. Duh. 

Most people are - in my case, too many grey days make me a little weepy, emotional, depressed and as gloomy as the sky outside (I live in Seattle).

However, if the sun breaks through, it hits me like a shot of tequila.

And I've worked out that sunshine + ocean = a huge burst of creativity.

I also think four seasons is three too many.

Knowing which “which” you are is really, really im…

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It's August - do you know where your life is going?

Find Your Vision .pdf

I love epiphanies. They usually come to me when I'm a) near a body of water b) it's sunny and c) I've just had coffee. Coincidence? I think not. 

To paraphrase Einstein: "Coincidence is the Universe's way of remaining anonymous." came to me that while I love closets, I love clarity even more.

It's something I've strived for my entire life.

Clarity in who I am, what I want, how to spend my time, money, energy, with whom and where...on this one-and-possibly-done go at being me. 


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Final destination. Where do you want to land?


A few months ago I had the privilege of going to Hawaii. Some people understood why I was going before I had my vaccination… and believe me, it was a long thought-out decision where my husband and I consulted several professionals, but I can get depression bad and I needed the sunshine desperately. 

Anyhoo...,I promise the following has to do with your vision and the life that you want to create.

If you want a short cut - scroll down to the next bold sentence. 

We had a hilarious time getting…

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40 women you can meet without leaving the house!

Erin Keam's Podcast

On my vision board (yes, I'm hugely pro these, reach out if you want help creating one, they are a ton of fun) are the words "inspire and be inspired."

The podcast I created called Conversations About Closets With My Closest 1000 Friends has been blowing my mind. So far I have had conversations with 40 incredible women. Most of the time we are laughing, but there's a few like Mahtab's and Cindy's where I've cried. I started off awkwardly. I need to go back and edit out a few "Can you hear me? I…

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Thank you Shonda Rhimes

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Dear Shonda Rhimes, 

I wanted to say thank you.

The world has been extremely stressful and very strange for a long time now. But thanks to you I have discovered a happy place I can go when things become overwhelming.

 That's not to say that my life isn't wonderful, I'm safe, loved, grateful and surrounded by SAD lights. I do wish I wasn't in Seattle, but it's an 18 hour plane ride and two weeks in solitary confinement in a hotel if I wanted to go to NZ to see my family and some sunshine, so t…

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Why I bought stock in Nordstrom p.s. Free Workshops!


I bought Nordstrom stock this week,.

Before you get all excited about my portfolio, I have three shares. Yes, that's three, as in the number 3. Current value...hold on, let me check. 


Apparently, the stock dipped today by 1.01 percent. Despite that, I think I'll hold. I could lose it all tomorrow, but I feel quite sanguine about it. It would have gone to a good cause (I do have actual charities I support but for now, feel free to think of me as having hidden shallows). 

Why did I deci…

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How a Christmas present helped me become a stylist - what were you given as a child?


In the 70's, when I was nine, my family went to Te Puke for Christmas.

Te Puke is about three hours from Auckland, where I lived and back then, I think it was famous for kiwifruit. Yes, it is kiwifruit, they are not called Kiwis - that what you call people from NZ, FYI. 

My auntie Jeannie lived there and it was her turn to host. I got to sleep in the caravan parked by the house, which was super cool, though I probably had to share with my younger brother.

It was a really good year for Christm…

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I created a podcast, want to be on it?


I'm lousy at group events. 

I mean the ones where there are many people in a room (this goes for parties as well) and the idea is to mingle. With business ones, the intention is to "network," you know, find out what others do so you can collaborate or refer, or hire each other. It's efficient but I get tired super fast so leave early or hide in the kitchen (if it's a party). It's just as tiring online. I like people as individuals and I don't mind speaking to a crowd, but interacting with a lot…

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What name is best for a "Zoom Ready" course? Opinions please!


It could be just me.

When I'm on a Zoom or any other on camera call, I'm always aware of the person's background.

I don't mean where they come from, or their life experience, I mean what's behind them.  Like pot plants and stuff. By the way, plants are great. Everyone responds well to plants. Apparently if you don't, you might need a therapist, I read that somewhere. 

I'm visual. Not saying you're not, but seeing clutter etc. bugs the heck out of me. I get distracted.


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