Clarity & Closet

Inspiration

What name is best for a "Zoom Ready" course? Opinions please!

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It could be just me.

When I'm on a Zoom or any other on camera call, I'm always aware of the person's background.

I don't mean where they come from, or their life experience, I mean what's behind them.  Like pot plants and stuff. By the way, plants are great. Everyone responds well to plants. Apparently if you don't, you might need a therapist, I read that somewhere. 

I'm visual. Not saying you're not, but seeing clutter etc. bugs the heck out of me. I get distracted.

The…

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I'll be smiling at you in oh, about two years.

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Currently I am trying to learn how to talk with aligners—Invisalign—in my mouth.
Apparently, I’m supposed to practice reading articles or books until I get used to them. It feels weird. I feel like I’m talking through cotton wool. I’m second guessing what I’m saying. I’m tripping over my sentences. 

They weren't comfortable at first.  And they’re annoying because I have to keep taking them in and out every time I want to eat. Given that I’m from New Zealand and I can’t go more than half an hour…

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It's terrifying being a female solopreneur - here's to Entrepreneurs Day

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Today is Entrepreneurs Day in the US! Wahoo!

Let's raise a glass (or smash a ceiling) in salute to all the women I know in my life who are entrepreneurs, most of whom are solopreneurs.

It is a roller coaster. On one hand, coaches, mindset books, influencers etc. tell you the sky's the limit. You're your own boss, you set your own schedule and if you want to work in your pajamas with the dog snoring beside you (like I am right now) you can. Your rules, your way. You create something from nothin…

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World Kindness Day - complement another woman on her style

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November the 13th is World Kindness Day.

I could argue that every day could be a kindness day but hey, we have to start somewhere. 

It was introduced in 1998 by the World Kindness Movement, cool, right? And when I looked it up, I found there’s an actual kindness.org. It popped up at the top of my search bar as an advert. Apparently they have to pay to promote kindness.

According to Wikipedia, the idea behind world kindness day is to “highlight good deeds in the community focusing on the p…

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I rewrote the lyrics to Don't Cha by Pussycat Dolls

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I started singing lessons a year ago just before winter hit because I get Seasonal Affective Disorder. It sucks, so I know by now to make appointments with myself that I have to keep.

I try something new every year whether it’s tap dancing or learning the piano, and last year I decided to fulfill a long-cherished dream of lying on a piano in a red dress pretending to be Michelle Pfeiffer from The Fabulous Baker Boys. Yes, well. 

I found an incredible singing teacher named William Moore. Take n…

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Ode to Buffy the Vampire Slayer

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(Spoiler Alert)

Oh, Buffy the Vampire Slayer. I have loved you for thirty years, Sarah Michelle Gellar (and yes, you have improved with age).

Back in 1999 when I was living in Tokyo, an American friend of mine had some VHS tapes (for those of you who remember them). On them were several episodes of a TV show called Buffy the Vampire Slayer. It had come out around the same time as a new book called Harry Potter and the Philosophers' Stone.

Oh, my mind was blown. Yes, I liked Harry, but it was …

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Malibu Barbie and Me.

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It never occurred to me that Malibu Barbie (and her cousin PJ, I had both) may have inspired me as a child.

She had my ideal life. 

Well, kind of. The upkeep must have been an effort, all that sun-kissed skin and keeping Surfer Kens at bay. But, oh, she was special. 

One Christmas, I was given a tanned doll with impossibly long legs, inflated chest, long blonde hair and a ridiculous waist.

I adored her on sight. It's summer at that time of year in New Zealand, so it wasn't as strange a choic…

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53 Years of Getting Dressed - Happy Birthday to Me!

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I'm 53 today.

Wahoo! Half way through. Given that my great-grandmother made it to over 100, why not? 

53 years of clothes....

Primary school (Elementary to all you Americans). I don't remember much about my own clothing, but I do remember my dolls. Paper and Barbie were huge in my life.  Even then I understood the advantage of friends with superior skills. I got Katrina, a girl in my class who was the best at drawing, to make a paper doll to my specifications (I don't remember the creative br…

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Why I have Thrift Stores in my Entertainment $$$ Category.

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I don’t like the word budget. It sounds...restrictive. Which in my experience can lead to binge shopping or deprivation. Neither are good things.

I much prefer spending plan. I choose all the categories, which includes singing lessons, vacations, petrol (sorry, gas) etc.

I was told that every dollar should have a purpose and to allocate every dollar in alignment with my values, my dreams, and my goals. I like that a lot. 

Regarding my spending on entertainment, what I don’t like going out to …

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The Sunken Cost Fallacy and Your Wardrobe

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I often bring up the sunken cost fallacy (gently) with clients. It’s when when you continue with something which is clearly a disaster, or a mistake or unhelpful just because you've invested time, money, or energy into it. 

One of my downfalls is  buffets (remember them?) I’d overeat simply to get my “money’s worth.” I’d feel lousy after, but it didn’t stop me doing it for years. Meanwhile, my more sensible and sane sister (how’s that for alliteration, Jo?) would eat normally then stop. Or bare…

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